Man Finds Plenty of Surprises in Bay Area Mosques
Ramadan blog is a funny, offbeat and loving look at a many-faceted world.
Zuhair Sadaat, 25, knew the Bay Area Muslim world was more varied than his parents’ 3,000-member, suburban Santa Clara mosque, where the congregation encompassed doctors, engineers, and other successful professionals.
In 2010, he set out to discover just how diverse it was.
The result: “30 Mosques in 30 Days,” a blog that clicks with American-born Muslim millennials.
Sadaat (rhymes with Zagat) visited a different mosque each night of the holy month of Ramadan, sizing up everything from shoe shelves and parking to the imam’s ability to inspire when leading the nightly taraweeh prayers.
Now in its second year, his catalogue of impressions is irresistibly droll, candid, and revealing.
“I turned around and saw a friendly woman looking at me. She was my ex-roommate's mother. I was surprised for a half-second that she was able to recognize me, and then I remembered, oh yeah, I'm one of three brown people in a crowd of 400 white people.”
He started in his home town of Santa Clara, then headed North to mosques in Milpitas, Belmont, San Mateo, South San Francisco, and beyond before stopping to tell it like it is in six counties.
Some included only a handful of worshippers; others, hundreds. He prayed in grand structures and in makeshift holy places using available space:
It's a rug store, no joke. Plenty of people walking by on El Camino were giving us strange looks, probably wondering what the hell those terrorists were doing in a closed business.
One thing is clear. He loves his faith and his people, however divergent. He was particularly impressed in Belmont by a mixed community with an energetic young imam: The people up here are so friendly it's ridiculous.
And in South San Francisco: Do you think it's possible to have a crush on a mosque? I do, because I do. I was floored when I first pulled into the parking lot and saw the beautiful facade of this place.
San Mateo got points for feminism: This is the only mosque I have ever seen where the front entrance was reserved for women and women only. Good for them!
Then, alas, he discovered those with inadequate space and no amenities: Parking is in the charming strip mall parking lot. The mosque shares the lot with numerous liquor stores and even a night club. I wouldn't drive anything newer than a 2005 model or else my car would get keyed for sticking out like a sore thumb.
Shoe shelves. For some reason, nobody uses them. I placed my shoes on the shelves next to the only other pair, and saw that those flip-flops had cobwebs all over them. Guess the mosque left a demo pair on the shelves to show folks that they're shoe shelves.
Three messages lie behind these light-hearted thumbnail sketches, all simple: Muslims are human. Muslims differ from one another, and so do mosques. And many, many Muslims call the Bay Area home.
Sometimes blog visitors take issue with his observations, like when he scolded one mosque for sinking money into a new minaret instead of something more practical, like a men’s room. But mainly he gets thumbs-ups.
This year, he'll revist some of last year's sites. And he'll hit some new ones.
He read about San Bruno's Al Madinah Academy in the newspaper. The mosque occupies a modest residential building, and has grown from seven to 60 members since it opened its doors in 2003. If holds taraweeh prayers, he'll be there.
"It's a mosque few people know about, so I was definitely looking forward to visiting this small community," he said.
He said there's much more he could be doing to promote his blog, but he's been cool to the idea. For one thing, he doesn't want to become recognizable.
“I don’t want people to expect me,” he said. “I want to be an anonymous visitor.”
Michael Hunt
7:06 pm on Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Umm probably showing my cultural ignorance here however the Blog has a category called “Friendliness Towards Women.” Nice. Loved the part from his Belmont Mosque visit regarding this: “They used the same entrance as the men, but were forced into a room with a door, thus ensuring we would neither hear them nor see them.” So awesome!
Alice Stoddard
8:30 am on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
I trust Michael that you are being sarcastic...this is not good or awesome that in 2011 right here in our community women are treated like animals. I don't think the Patch was intending this to expose the Mosque as a place where equality is fantasy however that is how the Blog reads (however seems like things were much much worse). I would expect this attitude towards women in other countries however this is the United States. It is just me or are other women outraged. Doesn't seem like anyone wants to talk about this.
Chris Corbett
9:21 am on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Are the women free to leave their religion or husband at any time with the kids--due to abuse or being treated like "animals" as you say? If not, there is a problem. Even though I respect all religions--providing their is no abuse or neglect--I wonder what the husbands do if the wives said they've had enough? Now, if there is no abuse or neglect, the women can leave, but the kids stay!
Heidi Beck
9:28 am on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Oh, please, I've known Catholic, Protestant and Jewish men who treat their wives and children badly. Some use religion as their excuse, but it's not their faith that's the problem.
Chris Corbett
9:46 am on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
True, men of all walks of life can be despicable. Women, too, can be very abusive, just in case you were unaware. Their abuse goes unreported and tolerated much, much more!
Michael Hunt
9:51 am on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Yes Alice. Sarcasm. Jim Crow would be proud of our Belmont Community. Very 1876. Back to the future! Love it.
Michael Hunt
10:26 am on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Heidi & Chris: Agreed there are "Dogs" in all walks of life regardless of race, religion, creed, etc. What is interesting here is there seems to be a systematic degradation of women. I’m certainly not an expert on culture and religion. I only read the Blog which had a subtext of “offbeat and loving look at a multi faceted world.” I had a very different emotional reaction (not offbeat or loving) to the article and was left with my mouth ajar. I’m a dude so I don’t have dog in this fight but figured I’d stand up for my lady friends. I found it interesting that specific segments of society get away with this crap while others are called to the carpet.
Chris Corbett
12:11 pm on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Degregation of women? As a rule, women are put on a pedastal and rarely criticized in almost all walks of life. They are tantamount to Godzilla who can do as they please, when they please. I wrote to 2 additional blogs on women, and Drew is hesitant to post them because any criticism of a woman is met with ostracization. She doesn't want that backlash. Maybe she's right, as if you guys are getting overly sensitive on my (and others) not exaulting women for doing as they please, when they please, those blogs of mine would need to be taken down soon after being put up due to SSF Patch having too much traffic. You guys will go for my jugglar! This is a discussion, a friendly debate, not a war. But, please, don't get me started on men's rights, as we have none! I'll talk all your ears off. The fact is, women are treasured in this world, and men are not. I eagerly welcome a debate here, because I know I'll win! However, nothing would change, so in the end, my victory won't matter. Sorry for any spelling errors herein...
Rebecca Rosen Lum
6:44 pm on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Zuhair set out to take stock of diversity -- diversity -- from one mosque to another. Clearly, he found plenty. That was his point. Are all churches alike? All synagogues? We know they're not. Yet we continue to assume all Muslims and all mosques are alike.
Incidentally, men and women pray separately in the Muslim faith, as do Orthodox Jews. That in itself does not mean women (or men) are held in contempt by the other gender. Zuhair clearly found a couple mosques that did sound misogynistic, like the one Michael cited.
But that is not unique to Islam. Only recently have women been accepted as spiritual leaders in many denominations. And in some, it is still considered out of the question.
Chris Corbett
7:00 pm on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
And, he did a wonderful job, as did you reporting on his findings. If people show emotion and care, they will read your article and comment with passion. That has happened here, and clearly your article piques peoples' interests aplenty. Good work!
Rebecca Rosen Lum
8:04 pm on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Thanks for the kind words, Chris. Patch has a great readership of lively thinkers. The discussions are great!
Chris Corbett
8:09 pm on Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Yep, all interesting articles have comments that go on tangents. One thought begets another, and another, and so on. Next thing you know an article on the Navy turns into comments on churches.